Do Friends with Benefits Work?

- Written by Debbie Nicholson published author. Her book and information can be found at http://faithanddreams.tripod.com Debbie can be reached at faithanddreams2002@yahoo.com

Welcome to e-sensuality monthly column, it is a new idea we are forming this year. We hope you all enjoy reading it.

Does friends with benefits work?

First off friends with benefits never really work out. In the end you never really stay friends. Either the person cares deeply for you and is afraid of a relationship commitment so saying friends is easier or the person just views you as a object to be used at will when they want and do not really care about your personal feelings.

In actuality a couple having sexual intimacy with each other have a strong bond and usually are faithful to one another. In the long run one of two things end up happening a relationship does come out of it or the friendship totally ends.

If you have a friend with benefits most of the time they really do want a relationship with you, care about you and most of the time truly do love you. The other end once again is they view you as a toy only.

Does size make a difference

Here is the age old question. First off the size of a mans penis has nothing to do with his sexual performance. Either they know how to use it and please their partner or they don't. In all reality size does not matter but knowing how to use it does.

What is the first thing that attracts a woman to a man?

In all reality when asked this question to a group of women it was the mans eyes first, then his personality. If your a man here is a hint coming off like the world's greatest stud, bragging about your penis size, or being full of yourself will not attract us at all. Women look for a man who is not afraid to be himself.

How many persons masturbate in front of their partner and why?

Out of a average of 100% of a poll run on this questions the results where as follows:

- female for male 51% yes 7% no
- male for female 16% yes (personally i think us females are getting gypped on this one) 2% no
- both partners for each other 23%

About 75% of persons really do love to watch their partner masturbate. To most persons it is the most erotic thing in the world. It also shows that you are comfortable with your sex partner and actually forms a bond that is not only sexual in content but can be deep and caring. Just add in some dirty talking to your partner while they perform the act such as " play with your clit it really turns me on" or "stroke it harder for me" "oh ya you really are turning me on" "how does it feel is it feeling good" it can definitely spice up your love life. At the same time you can both masturbate for each other or take turns doing it. Watching some porn while doing it can be exciting too. Let him/her surf on net and watch the men/girls while the partner masturbates for them, this can be a exciting turn on or watch a porn movie and do it. Letting your partner give you instructions is also a high. You can even try when a female does masturbation for a man, don't be shy guys talk to us, play with our breasts, et.. We have those sexual fantasies too. Same thing for you ladies, play with his balls while he does it, suck on them, et.. and don't forget the dirty talk.

That is about it for this months column if you have any questions or things you would like to see in the column email to esensuality2007@yahoo.com put monthly column in subject line.

Remember to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and don't be afraid to ask them to try something. They may surprise you and want to do it too. Also, here is the biggie for males and females please never force your partner to do anything that they do not want to or feel uncomfortable with doing. Sex is great intimacy between two persons as long as it is a mutual understanding.

January 2008 Monthly Column by Deb

Does friends with benefits work?

Does size make a difference

What is the first thing that attracts a woman to a man?

How many persons masturbate in front of their partner and why?

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