Long Distance Love on the Internet

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I know it’s easy to get to know someone over the computer because you can hide behind a screen and disguise your identity if you want to. I normally don’t talk to people over the computer, for the above reasons, but Tomche and I found each other in December. In January, we started talking nearly everyday, and we’ve been together ever since. We call each other on the phone about every two weeks but we only talk about 10 minutes at a time because it’s so expensive! When we aren’t on the computer, or on the phone, we text each other on our cell phones. We don’t quite know why we met but we’re determined to find out. We wanted to share our story with you. We hope you enjoy it!

March 15, 2007

Tomche and I talked for nearly two hours today because neither one of us wanted to say good-bye. Because of the time change we are now 12.5 hours apart, not by car, but by airplane. It’s getting harder and harder for us to be separated by such a long distance. When we talk, we usually talk about sex—having it, role playing, living out our fantasies—but not so much today. Today we talked about life, love, and being together. He invited me to India today. Airfare into Chennai is at least $1800 and travel time is anywhere between 24 to 30 hours. Not a trip to take on a moments notice.

March 17, 2007

It’s been a restless 24 hours or so and neither one of us has gotten much sleep. It’s usually me who can’t sleep but this time it was both of us. We each woke up during the night thinking of the other. Both times we met up on-line and talked until the other was tired and ready to fall asleep again.

March 19, 2007

I got three more pictures today in my mailbox and he’s actually smiling in one of them. He likes to hide behind his sunglasses and he usually has a serious look on his face, but not today. I love his eyes and his sexy smile. I can’t wait to kiss his lips.

He told me today that he wants me for the rest of his life, or forever, to be exact. Pretty powerful words, I know. I’m not quite ready to answer just yet, but we will keep you posted, we promise.

March 21, 2007

We talked on the phone today for 25 minutes. It was after 11, India time, so I’m hoping the rates were cheaper. I get nervous when we talk because I’m not really sure what to say other than “I miss you” and “I love you.” The connection isn’t always the greatest either so sometimes it hard to hear and understand what we are trying to say. Hopefully the important words are the ones spoken the loudest.

March 23, 2007

I’ve spent the past few days deep in thought and I’ve had a lot on my mind. I’m feeling overwhelmed tonight but it’s nothing that a bowl of ice cream couldn’t cure. Tomche and I talked for a half-hour today after he came home from work. He works 10 hour days and sometimes he has office on Saturday. This is one of the weekends he’s not on leave so we won’t talk tonight but we should get to talk tomorrow.

March 24 and 25, 2007

When Tomche came online last night I had just sat down in front of my laptop. It didn’t just happen once, it happened twice, both times we talked. We were beginning to wonder if our minds were trying to connect.

We talk a lot about the subconscious and how it seems to draw us together. From the very beginning I felt something between us-I couldn’t explain it-to anyone. I could talk about it until I was blue in the face but not too many people would understand. Understanding means realizing who I am. The way I think, act, and live my life. For some this is too hard to fathom so they treat me as though I’m odd, and in a way, I suppose I am.

I live my life on my terms. I do things my way and no one tells me different. My one and only trip around the sun will be lived with no regret. My life is too short not to follow my heart.

I believe everything in my life happens for a reason. This includes Tomche. Our lives are still an unsolved mystery but the clues are starting to fall into place. The middle of our story has already been written and we are currently working on the beginning. The end is still unknown.

March 28, 2007

Tomche and I talked on the phone today for 15 minutes. I told him I needed to talk to someone who would listen and not judge me so he offered to call. We didn’t talk about sex today, we talked about mind control. Did you know that what you think in your mind is what happens in your life? Life is all about how you perceive it. Think negative and negative things will happen. Trying to be positive all the time is a hard concept to master but it’s much better than being negative.

We also talked about meditation. Meditation helps to clear your mind of all the garbage and it allows you to focus on the positive instead of the negative. If you’re struggling with a bad habit try meditating. If I meditate every day during the month of April then maybe I can cancel my appointment with my therapist.

April 2, 2007

Breaking News! Tomche asked me to marry him. I of course told him yes. I know this is crazy because we’ve never met but we both feel as though we are meant to be together, sometime, during this lifetime. Our plan at this point is to find a way to erase the distance between us, hopefully soon.

Update from Tomche: This is a relationship that most people will have difficulty understading. Infact I would say, you will have difficulty understanding this unless you put yourself in our place. I love her way too much and I am really glad that she came into my life.

April 6, 2007

Romance is taking a back seat this weekend to work and family. I am spending Easter at the family farm and Tomche is working. We have agreed to meet again on Monday.

April 8, 2007

I don’t live in India but I can tell you that traffic is a pain in the rear end. I should know by now that it’s impossible to talk on the phone while Tomche is in the car. I got the impression tonight that if you’re driving, you really shouldn’t be talking on the phone, the police don’t care for it too much. Hopefully he remembers to call me back when he gets to work.

We didn’t talk at all this weekend so I had a few moments where I thought I might lose my mind. I missed him so much. I did get one email and I kept reading, it, again, and again. We’ve grown very close to one another, as close as two people can get being so far apart. Even if Tomche and I only remain very good friends I will cherish him forever, and I mean that. I’m not sure I could let him go.

April 10, 2007

Tomche did call me back when he got to work on Monday. He called from his car before going into his office. We only talked for a few minutes but it was good to hear his voice.

We talked today on the computer for an hour and a half, it was after midnight, his time, when we finally said goodbye. Sometimes we start talking and we lose track of time, either that or we just don’t want to let each other go.

I can’t tell you why I love him, I just do. Something about him tugs at my heart and I am so glad he’s come into my life.

April 13, 2007

Today it seemed as though Tomche and I couldn’t get enough of one another. I wasn’t home in the afternoon so we didn’t get to have our usual conversation. I was starting to miss him so I called him, at 2:00 in the afternoon US time, 12:30 in the morning, India time. He was finishing up the work he brought home and getting ready for bed. My phone rang about 15 minutes into our conversation; it was he calling me back. Our phone bills are huge because we talk as though we are next door neighbors even though we live a world apart.

He’s on leave this weekend so we plan to meet when he wakes up in the morning. It’s 11:00 in the evening on Friday night or 9:30 in the morning on Saturday when we talk again.

We would like to live near the ocean, on the beach, so he’s considering a housing change. He lives in the city right now and as I’ve mentioned before, it’s quite noisy. Even though I live in the city at home I am a country girl at heart. I would rather wake up to the sun than my alarm clock to be honest with you. Wherever he chooses to live will need my approval, of course, because I plan to live there someday too.

He called me again tonight and we talked for nearly 30 minutes. It was well after midnight when we said goodbye, at least three times. I can’t explain this relationship so I think I’ll just enjoy it.

April 15, 2007

It’s 1:06 in the morning. My heart is racing and my body aches. We just got off the phone and I’m wide awake. We were talking online when the net got cut off in India. I know this because Tomche sent a message to my phone.

I had just gone to bed when he sent another message asking me if he could call. I told him yes, he could. We talked for 15 minutes. He wanted to tell me goodnight.

It’s late now, I’m tired, and I am going to bed.

April 19, 2007

It’s been four days since we last talked. Tomche has been busy with a project so for the rest of the week I think I might have to settle for mail instead. He has office this weekend too, on Saturday. If I keep myself busy then I don’t think about him nearly as much but he is always with me.

April 22, 2007

Tomche and I usually talk on Saturday night, Sunday morning, because he doesn’t have office. Last night, however, I waited, and I finally went to bed and fell asleep. I woke up around 11 and messaged his phone. He was asleep and my message woke him up. It was nearly midnight when he came online. We talked for an hour or so when he decided to call. We spent 30 minutes on the phone before we lost the connection between our cell phones. At 2:00 in the morning we finally said goodnight.

April 23, 2007

I miss him tonight.
Update from Tomche: I miss her every night

April 28, 2007

We just finished up our usual middle of the night talk. Tonight we talked about when he might come and visit me. I was hoping for July but I’ll settle for the end of December. I am holding him to it because by then we will have known each other exactly one year.

May 2, 2007

It’s been a few days since we’ve had an actual conversation. We talked for about an hour or so today, about life, marriage, and our future together. We had our first major difference of opinion today, not a fight, just two different views on the same topic. Nothing changed between us and we still plan to be together.

May 4, 2007

Interesting conversation today. We talked about what’s going to happen when Tomche comes to visit later on this year. Will he stay or will he go back to India? Stay tuned for an update from the man himself……

Update from Tomche: I want to stay there with her and not return back. I am working towards it.

May 15, 2007

Life has kept me busy so I haven’t had much time to write lately. Tomche and I are still together and we still talk every day. I asked him today if he had a pillow waiting for me because I needed him and I wanted to be with him. His response was yes, I do have one waiting for me. I’ve been missing him lately, a lot, more so than usual. I miss him every day, don’t get me wrong, but some days are harder than others.

June 16, 2007

For those of you who were wondering, Tomche and I are still very much in love with one another. It’s been a while since our story was updated but we are still together. We still talk nearly every day, online, so nothing has changed.

We talked last night on the phone for about 20 minutes. He wants to visit so I told him to come and get me. I started begging, actually, which made him laugh. Our first visit still stands at the end of December.

June 23, 2007

Tomche was up most of the night working. It was 4:20 in the morning, India time, when he signed out of messenger. I’m not sure what time he fell asleep. It was time for dinner here when we said goodbye. I was making pizza and my oven was too hot. My smoke alarm kept going off because when I would open the oven my kitchen would fill with smoke.

We talked about a lot of different things today. Some of them I can write about, and others are best left up to your imagination. I was looking at diamond rings online today. I have one or two picked out that I like. I know I’m counting my chickens before they hatch but it’s fun to plan, and it’s fun to dream. We talked about our wedding today, about eloping, and my wedding dress.